July 6, 2012

50 Shades of Grey and Magic Mike.(A Non-Judgmental, Non-Hypocritical Point of View)


The article that follows is written by one very articulate, wonderful Christian woman, who had it on her heart to write about what plagued her mind concerning Magic Mike and Fifty Shades of Grey. The original source of the article can be found herehttp://melissajenna.com/2012/06/30/50-shades-of-magic-mike-in-which-i-am-very-uncool/. Please visit Melissa and tell her exactly what you think of her article. I wanted to repost the article because I also felt so strongly and believe she did the PERFECT job in posting her words. There's nothing I could've added to make this any more perfect. In no way do I claim this article as mine, but it is only with the intent of directly sharing the article with you that I am posting it here. Again, all credit is due to http://melissajenna.com/ for sharing the words on her heart. (Melissa Jenna has given consent to repost this article)


BEGIN MELISSAJENNA.COM ARTICLE.

50 Shades of Magic Mike (In Which I Am VERY UNCOOL)

This is a post that will not make me any friends, and will alienate some of my existing friends, and generally make me look like a complete stick-in-the-mud. Do people still say that? Stick-in-the-mud? How about killjoy/spoilsport/wet-blanket, etc? You get what I mean.

Explanation

The only reason I’m writing this at all is because I feel compelled to do so. I’m not sure if you ever had this feeling, but sometimes there are words that I need to write, only I don’t want to write them. So I push them deep down, underneath all of the other words I actually want to write, and beneath my mental-list of chores and errands, so far down that I think they basically don’t exist anymore. But that’s never the case. Something always causes them to spring back up, and this will continue happening until I sit down and write the words out. Then I can move on with my life. That’s what this is.

“Mommy Porn”

“50 Shades of Grey” is an erotic novel, and “Magic Mike” is a movie about male strippers, and both are very, very popular with women right now. In fact, they’re being called “Mommy Porn.” (I won’t go into more detail, because there is enough about them both on the Internet already.) I can’t check Twitter or Facebook without reading another enthusiastic update about both of them. Seems like every woman I know is into one of those works, or both. I am not surprised that both of these works are being celebrated so openly; there are so many equivalent works that are aimed at men that garner major public attention that I’m actually surprised it took women this long to get their own “thing.” I am surprised, though, at how completely accepting Christian culture is to both of these works. I’ve read a few dozen different updates from Christian women regarding “50 Shades” and “Magic Mike,” and the verdict? They love them. I mean they really looooove them. They can’t stop talking about them.
(Quick, like a bandaid:) This is not okay.
Christian women need to reject both of these works, and instead, use our voices in support of what is good, right and true. It is our responsibility, as daughters of the Heavenly King, to remain set-apart from the poisons of our culture, to rebuke temptation, and to celebrate and honor righteousness.
Some Scriptural Support
“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8
If your enemy thinks he can snare you with something as “acceptable” as 50 Shades or Magic Mike, you better believe he will take advantage. Don’t let the culture’s acceptance and celebration of these works confuse you, or put you off your guard.
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:1-9
(Emphasis my own.) Do not conform to the patterns of this world. In other words, just because everyone else is reading it/watching it, that doesn’t make it acceptable.
“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” Matthew 6:22-23
Is what you’re putting in front of your eyes healthy? Is what you’re putting into your imagination healthy?

Put Yourself in His Shoes

To gain another perspective, imagine your husband (or father/brother/church leader) going around bragging about how much he loved reading last month’s Playboy magazine, or rallying all of his guy friends to go see “Magic Meghan” for the third time. If our husbands were drooling over a movie about female strippers, we would be livid. It wouldn’t be tolerated. Church leaders would be publicly denouncing men’s sudden acceptance of pornography and erotic films. (Why aren’t church leaders publicly denouncing 50 Shades or Magic Mike, by the way?)

Make Good Decisions


If you’re a Christian woman, and you’re reading this, know that I am not judging you. (I own 50 Shades myself. I bought it before I knew what it was, on the recommendation of a friend, and after reading some pages and discovering that it’s pornography, I cast it aside.) We all have poor judgement sometimes, and leave ourselves open to temptation. But we can also use our agency to make good decisions. Like throwing 50 Shades away (don’t re-gift it!), and not going to see Magic Mike. (Or if you’ve already seen it, stop encouraging all of your friends to go see it.)
Rather than causing each other to stumble by putting our sisters in the path of temptation, what if we decided to use our voices to celebrate our marriages? Or the marriages of your friends and family? What if we championed healthy relationships?

Taking Things Up a Notch

(This next paragraph talks about sex a little bit, so stop reading if you don’t want to read about sex.)
What if we invested our time and energy into spicing things up in our bedrooms? Rather than spending $12 on that movie, or the book, why not save the money, and instead, wear something sexy to bed, just because? And what if all the time that you would have spent reading 50 Shades, you instead spent making love to your husband? (Though probably not all in one day…unless you’re, like, training for a marathon.) We can definitely kick things up a notch without resorting to reading pornography, or lusting after celebrity-strippers.

Non-Christian Perspective

It is not okay to sexually objectify people. Just because evidently this summer we’re all about objectifying men, that doesn’t make it okay. It’s not like there’s a scale, and all these years, it’s been heavy on the objectification-of-women side, and we need to balance it out by objectifying men now. It doesn’t work that way. The only way we “balance the scale” is by quitting objectifying anyone, and leaving the scale empty. Oh, and that saying “you are what you eat?” I’d say the same thing goes for media: you are what you consume. Pornography is unhealthy. There, I said it.
Do I win some kind of prize for being the least popular person on the Internet for this? Like I’ve said: I did not want to write this. Please be nice to me in the comments, because if you know me at all, you know that this is totally out of character for me. I don’t preach at people…well, ever. I’m just glad these words are out so I can finally write the things I want to write.
xoxo, mj

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This article was taken from http://melissajenna.com
I couldn't help but repost, as she put it so well. 
I will not be running to see "Magic Mike" nor will I be reading "Fifty Shades of Grey" at any point in the future.

UPDATE!!! Because of the unreal amount of reposts about this article, I've decided to add a little something on my own behalf. There is something here that people are finding offensive. I've had this article linked up on other blogs, specifically irocksowhat.com and venessalewis.wordpress.com, with venessalewis being the most critical. I also hear many women say that the article is judgmental in the fact that it is degrading the right of female sexuality and that the article itself is trying to inhibit womanly sexual desire. That is simply not true. 

Here's what I have to say about that.


I wanted to give you the link to the original writer: to give her credit where credit is due. Plus, she has way more responses and much better conversation between agreers and disagreers alike.
I also wanted to state that the article (50 Shades of Magic Mike in Which I Am Very Uncool) and its opinions thereof ARE NON-judgmental and do not condemn PEOPLE, but rather condemn the trivial acts of reading and/or viewing such mind-numbing materials. I also have to state that I am not in the business of condemning people nor judging them. That’s not my job. That would only make my life miserable and I believe wholeheartedly that people are worth more than their imperfections or mistakes. God’s mercy abounds, which I am grateful for (ie. i’ve made mistakes…stupid mistakes), therefore I can only hope to show mercy and love to others. I was merely agreeing with the article and the fact that such works are of no value to Christian women. It is unfortunate that you’ve had a terrible experience within the church, and I have surely met women who’ve been taught that sex is bad, which then carries over into an unhealthy sexual relationship once married=sex is bad=no sex in marriage….but I can tell you that I love sex. God intended us to love sex. Sex is awesome! As a matter of fact, Song of Solomon is by far one of my favorite books in the Bible and has some very sexual material (given not like Magic Mike or 50 Shades…), but I do however continue to enjoy sex only with my husband, as I believe is the right thing to do. It would be crude to give details, which I won’t, but there are many things women and men alike can do to spice up their relations with their husband/wife, which the article hints at. Women and men merely have to rely on their imagination rather than low-level entertainment such as Magic Mike and 50 Shades. I agree with you on that…this crap too shall pass. Thank God. And it is for many reasons I do not watch romantic dramas anymore, but most of all I do not watch because it is unrealistic and I do not wish to project those unrealistic romantic fantasies on my own relationship, especially because the “love” in Twilight-type movies is only skin-deep. It’s simply unreal and cannot be compared to my very real relationship with my husband. The same goes for 50 Shades and Magic Mike. It’s entertainment I do not wish to entertain.
I am also too disgusted with this country’s irrational hang-up on sex. It goes both ways. There’s the glorification of it and the vilification of it. I’m tired of the glorification of it. Is it really the hottest thing out there? So we can agree to disagree on that one.
Sorry for making this so long. I tend to be longwinded. I just wanted to set the record straight on the original source to give credit where credit is due and to provide you with some better argumentative commentators, which I think you’ll enjoy reading more so than mine. It seems you have had some awful encounters with Christians who’ve said terrible things about sexuality in general, to which I say to you, I’m truly sorry for that. That really sucks. You’ve been misinformed though. Sex is beautiful. Many Christians think so too.

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